Leaders Say “Yes!”

Today I had the pleasure of celebrating Father’s Day for the second year in the row with Jeff Collins and Dr. James Collins.

Jeff and I had similar work responsibilities  while he served as the Deputy County Executive for Wayne County.  His dad, Dr. Collins, is 93 years old ironically was my husband’s pediatrician.

The leadership lesson they personify is “Say Yes When Asked to Serve.”

Both of their careers have been built on a life of service. Jeff as a lawyer and former judge. And Dr. Collins as a physician and teacher.

Last year, I asked Jeff if he and his dad would served on a Father’s Day guest panel.  The event was to raise funds to help restore historic club of Detroit Association of Women’s Clubs.  Jeff quickly accepted.  Although the local news only aired a brief clip, Jeff shared many important fatherhood lessons Dr. Collins had imparted to him.

Jeff has also served over a decade as the organizer of a summer camp trip for inner city youth, saying yes and giving an opportunity for all to experience the great outdoors.

Today, Jeff and Dr. Collins said yes to being the replacement speaker and the Father’s Day honoree respectively at Plymouth United Church of Christ.  Dr. Andre Young was unable to attend and Jeff stepped in to share his message “Don’t Worry. I Got You.”  He interwove his story of how Dr. Collins was an unwavering influence and presence.  Dr. Collins was never  went on hiatus during his fatherly duties no matter the circumstance.  The Congregation appropriately stood and applauded.

At the end of service, I made one request.  “Jeff, may I share the footage from the 2018 Father’s Day Brunch?” Of course, he said “Yes!”  So take a moment to enjoy the clip and other pics.  Happy Father’s Day!

Also a special Father’s Day acknowledgement to Monroe Colvard (age 102), the Collin’s men, Louis Allen,   Richard Smart II and III, .NickHood III, Dave Mabone, James Brown Sr., Donald Tensley, Joe Nichols, Hon. Robert J. Colombo, Hon. Virgil Smith, Ron Ruffin,  and James Brown Jr. F2D76103-35E5-4CF0-BCCC-D7E444C6C1CE

Act 2: To Retire or Not To Retire

Our guest blogger today is Jan Hiller.    Welcome her and enjoy her story as she writes on retirement dilemma.

~”To be or not to be.” Shakespeare

~“To retire or not to retire”- approximately 10,000 workers in the USA each day

Let’s see. Late nights. No alarm. Sleeping in. Lounging around the house in comfy cloths. Late morning walks with the dog. Nowhere to be unless I made an appointment. Eligible for Social Security. Need to file for Medicare soon. Life sounds pretty good, sounds like I’m ready for retirement.

I mean really how does work life even compare: running late, getting dressed and spilling coffee on me and of course no clean blouse. Walk the dog even when the snow is deeper and taller than him. Rush hour traffic backed up because someone couldn’t wait two extra minutes for traffic to clear before busting through the light. Hurrying to punch in by 8:00am. Get to my desk and find out the computers are down and the IT gang is sick today. Decide to go upstairs to try and get some help; never mind the elevators are out. Going to get my steps in today, just didn’t think it would be done by noon. Another bag lunch at my desk, can’t miss the phone call from the repair company. And the ride home is not complete without a number of calls already for things to do tomorrow.

That retirement is sounding pretty good to me right about now; or is it?

While it sounds glorious, something that most never would get tired of, it is, however, a major decision that I would have to make. I hear fellow workers saying they can’t wait to retire. “Three years, six months and five days and I’m out of here” said the gal as she crossed out another day on her calendar.  Others have made plans already.  No one knows what tomorrow brings; let alone three years from now. It’s great to make plans or dream of things to come but, for some, it really is a dream.

It goes without saying that the majority of the working population thinks about retirement often. I count myself in that group. I also wish I has thought more about it from a financial level ten years ago, but that’s old news now.  While it’s easy to get frustrated and complain, it’s even harder to admit you actually enjoy your job. Am I really actually ready to pull the plug? 

While some say it’s time to go, others say they enjoy their jobs because it’s the challenge they look forward to. So, if the challenge is missing, the job is not the same. Sure, there are stumbles or setbacks, but those are what makes it a job. But what should I do when a new challenge, in the form of a new title and responsibility, was offered to me? My first thought was I was not ready for it. I wasn’t sure a challenge at this time in my life was what I needed. Is there pressure, you bet there is. However, like any other challenge you are faced with; accept it, learn from it and grow because of it. In the end I believe being dedicated and committed to my new challenge will be the reason I can say retirement is still in the future; but not the near future.  

 

 

2E925071-AC6F-4AE2-B47D-E12CD4EB7AD78E5693ED-98C5-44CF-B6EF-A3DB3F73556DJan is a Deputy Director for Facilities and handles security concerns for a large trial court.  She is a proud wife, mother, and grandmother and is currently vacationing in Montana with her clan.

 

The Best Year Ever!

I love it when young people describe an event as “The Best Ever!”

It’s June 2, 2019; it’s mid-year.  This week I acknowledged my 2019 successes and realized I had to recalibrate in some areas to achieve my best year ever by December 31, 2019.  I want to spend more time in the legal community, more time work on leadership training, and more time with family and friends.  Thus, I had to clear my calendar of some other commitments that were on my calendar.  I also sent out follow up emails and placed phone calls to get my needed dinner plans, trainings, meetings, and conferences to get some idle things moving. Honoring my financial goals, I wrote membership checks and followed up on money due to me.  I’ve spent the last eight hours writing a court leadership article for publication.  I felt like I was cramming and writing mid-term essay.  But I completed a good first draft.  This weekend I created lists and have been getting my world in order.  I’m readying my path for the next six months—the second half of “My Best Year Ever!”

Starting with you, I’m wishing that 7 billion people across this earth have their “Best Year Ever!”   Where are you with your goals?

Here’s a mid-term check in and some direction for next steps to accelerate your pace or to get you unstuck.

Part I: Stop and access.  Journal 10 minutes.

What are my 2019 leadership goals?

Where have I  spent my time?

Where have I spent my treasures?

Part II: Success. Journal 10 minutes

What have I achieved so far?

What has been the impact of my accomplishments on myself and others?

How will I celebrate my successes?

Part III: Redirect.  Journal 10 minutes.

What different choices will I  make about my goals, my time, and my treasures?

What will I do to make sure I keep my commitments to myself regarding my goals, my time, and my treasures.

There are no grades for this mid-term check in, but do not cheat yourself out of the opportunity to assess, celebrate, and move forward in “Your Best Year Ever!”D85B1724-FEB8-4BE6-9E63-F17331DA1CB1

Two Hopes for Memorial Day

Leaders,

I am hoping that you do two things this Memorial Day Weekend:

  1. That you take a moment of silence in remembrance of those who served to protect our country and gave the ultimate sacrifice.
  2. That you find something to smile about.  Smiling is the easiest, most obvious, attractive, and satisfying habit you can practice each day.  And it’s free.

Happy Memorial Day!

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Self-Care, Self-Discovery, and Self-Recovery

Anita Caprice created the TAPN2USM Self Recovery Game and share how this game helps us as leaders unearth or rediscover our authenticity.

 

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In 2015, it started out as a game – a game to play with my grandchildren.  Something we could do to bond, get closer, have fun together, something to help them get to know who they are, to help steer, guide them.  A tool that can be used to help with answers to questions.  

 

It was also created to help us connect with ourselves and each other in a fun, safe, loving and carefree way.  To gain intrinsic Sight as to our purpose, passion, while understanding, loving and treasuring our uniqueness as we serve.  All the while elevating self trust.

 

It was my grandson who actually showed me how to play the game.  Goodness, is that saying so true “Out of the mouths of babes”.  

 

Developing this fun game, I had no idea what was in store for me.  I was about to venture on truly a recovery of assurance, acceptance, awareness – a continuum of Self Recovery.  Albeit on the road of Self Recovery, my soul (thought & emotion) was ready to travel down an inclusive path rich with soil, full of nutrients with the essence to nurture, learn, experience and grow.

 

It was after the creation of these cards (that I’ve since refer to as Universal), playing with my granbabies, and using them as a meditative tool, at the beautiful and tender age of 59, I recovered aspects of myself I wanted to keep, continue to think about or remove!  And oh, how I love learning to trust me more and more!

 

Using these cards as a daily reflection, a mantra during meditation, a focus in contemplation, a question in prayer, I began to be reintroduced to me, recover – the inside of me – the PrincessGodIs that IS me, that IS You.  

 

The enjoyment of these cards is unlimited and complements your imagination and creativity.  Here are a few 😊

 

To reconnect, recover those untapped attributes

For Prayer, Meditation, Contemplation and a guide to begin Gratitude Journaling

To have fun with Yourself and others

To recover just how AWESOME You are

To recognize sabotage thought and behavior

To assist with Manifesting Intentions

To spend time alone with a very important person – YOU

To recognize You are worthy, deserving, have what it takes, love and loved.

Enhance Communication

Get-To-Know Each Other

Relationship Builder

Conflict Resolution & Management (may use entire deck or select a card, i.e. “What makes me Smile”)

Share Intimate Dreams/Intentions with Your Partner

Family Game Night

It’s a fun way to take a Selfie on the inside and TAPN2U.  The Journey/Self Recovery is Beautiful and so are YOU – TAPN2U.

 

D8A950C1-91E6-4CCF-BF20-91DB8741DADCAnita Caprice is the Founder & Creative Director of Engai Poetry & Music Publishing/Academy.  Rev. Anita Caprice holds a Doctorate in Metaphysical Science.  She continues to reside, tithe her time, talent and treasure in the Detroit Metropolitan area.  Her TAPN2U philosophy (live LIFE from the Inside/out), by getting closer to yourSelf is to get closer to God.

Office: 1+313-605-8220

Email:  spokenword.etc@gmail.com

Web:  www.anitacaprice.com